I've been
thinking about this a lot and I think I finally understand why Fifty Shades
of Grey has been so popular with mothers in the US. I still don’t
understand the fascination with Twilight, but one can’t have everything.
Why are grown women so interested in submission and being
dominated by a man? I've decided it has to do with vacations.
The old
story is that when families go on vacation the kids and husband are often
allowed to relax the mom is still the one who is responsible for everything.
This is no longer the case with every family, but it seems that the families
that stick to traditional gender roles disproportionately have moms who enjoy Fifty
Shades of Grey.
These women
are tired…worn out. Whether they work outside the home or are responsible for
the kids and the home they need a break that they never get. The might get the
opportunity to have a girls night out for a few hours or the luxury of a
weekend away once a year, but that’s it.
The rest of
the time they are responsible for EVERYTHING. They do all of the grocery
shopping and most of the cooking and whatever the kids have for lunch is their
responsibility. The husband may make breakfast one day on the weekend, which is
supposed to make her elated even when she has cooked EVERY OTHER MEAL that
week, with minimal appreciation.
So mom cooks
and often works outside the home and is also supposed to make sure that all of
the chores get done and the kids get the clothes they need, oh and the husband
has underwear. She makes sure everyone gets to the doctor visits and is up to
date on their shots. When she gets home from work she makes dinner and is after
the kids to finish their homework.
When the dad
gets home he gets to take a break or eat the dinner she has made and then gets
fussy if she wants him to do the dishes.
So this is
the story of many of the moms I know. This is their life. Then they read a book
about a man who is in charge of everything, money isn’t a worry and it seems
like a wonderful break from their reality.
While the erotica
stories of submissives are varied the main point of a submissive is that they
don’t need to or get to make any decisions. They are told what to wear and what
to do. They get to have lots of sex and lots of orgasms, so they get spanked
now and again, this is all just fantasy anyway.
And no
decisions need to be made. They don’t need to think of which home repair should
be addressed first, what color to paint the kitchen, whether the kids are
getting too much screen time and enough green veggies, whether their husband
will help out with stuff today…
I’m not
saying that Fifty Shades of Grey is good, just that it fills a need.
This is a book that allows women who have had little connection with porn to
read something they find sexy and titillating, but without language they would
find graphic and uncomfortable. And it allows them to live in a fantasy for a
while. No one is going to read this series and go find a submissive contract to
sign (well, one should never say no one
but not many, certainly). This allows women to take flight in a world where
money is never an issue, they get lots of easy orgasms and need to make few
decisions.
They just
get to sit back in a kneeling position and wait to hear what there are supposed
to do next…HEAVEN.
